New Year, New Bod

December 31, 2008


Exercise bike

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Another year and another list of New Years Resolutions. I know that I’m not alone in my desire to lose weight. This is not the first time I’ve wanted to lose weight, in fact it has been on the list for the last three years (at least). So what! I was not successful last year, but this year will be different. I know, I know they all say that. The difference this year is that I have a strong motivation, I think my weight affects my fertility. Also I have stopped blaming my husband, just cause he buys a donut for me does not mean I have to eat it. I also I have decided to revisit one of my first love, dancing. I use to love going to them gym, walking for hours at time and doing sit-ups just for the fun. I don’t enjoy those things anymore but I will always love dancing and I know that I can look at that activity as a treat and not as a punishment. But the one major change is that I will be honest with myself and set realistic goals. Losing one- two pounds a week is realistic, losing 30 ponds every month is not. Dancing 15 minutes a day is realistic, exercising four hours a day is not.

Earnie Lawson came of with a list of pointers that will help you keep any resolution.

1) Congratulate yourself for even trying: Think how many people didn’t even make the effort to put goals out in front of themselves! You cared enough to do so. Reaching some goal or making a change in your life that would make it and you better mattered enough for you to make the effort. So, clap yourself on the back.

2) A goal w/o a plan is sure to fail: Goals are where you want to end up. The question is HOW do you get to that end point? Make a plan of HOW you are going o reach your goal. What are the steps? What are the target dates for achieving each step? If you goal doesn’t come with a plan it is like an electric appliance with no cord. There is no way to plug it in!

3) Make it do-able: Although a person never knows that they can do until they try, still some goals are clearly impossible. Impossible goals are planned failures. That’s why it is important to have short term goals and plans to reach them. If the small steps are not realistic then neither is the long range goal.

4) What is your motivation? Keep it close: If change were easy there would be no need for New Year’s Resolutions. That’s why it is helpful to keep the MOTIVATION for making the change up close and personal. If it is a new house, put a picture of what the house may look like where you can daily see it. If it is a new body shape, again, put a picture of it on the fridge. If it is to make and keep new friends in the new year journal everyday – or at least often – WHY you want more and new friends. Write out what you gain if you do – and what you lose if you don’t.

5) Support and Accountability: No one makes significant life changes alone. A huge step in making your goal a true goal and not just a wish is when you share your plan with someone else. Ask them to help you. Set out your short range goals, including the time frame, as ask them to hold you accountable for doing the daily footwork to achieve them. No one makes change alone.

6) Celebrate small successes. Making life change is a major achievement. The more you celebrate your success (each short term goal achieved is a success) the more motivated you will be to “push on through” to the finish line. Treat yourself for a job well done. The more you believe you deserve the rewards of your achieved goal the more power you have in making it a reality.

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New Year Resolutions

December 31, 2008

So how ‘bout those 2008 New Year’s Resolutions? Have you achieved them all? If the answer is yes, congrats, you got my respect. Did you let a few get away from you? No worries, that is still impressive. Or are you like me don’t even know where that piece of paper is? Well I’m going to change how I do things this year. First I will not put off tomorrow what I can do today. Second I will follow the advice of all those goal achievement gurus and come up with a well balanced plan. And since we are all friends here I would love to share: my goals, my starts, my plan, and my journey.the_journey____by_commanderdex
The first Step is a little soul searching exercise. Get out a piece of paper, better yet a new journal to keep track, and divide it in four sections by drawing one line down the middle width and for the length. The first section I want you to label your Passions, the second your Talents, the third your Values and the fourth your Problems. Now when you have a minute I want you to sit and fill out each section. Your goal is to write at least ten different items for each section, but write as many as you can think of or will fit in the space allotted. Start with your passions: what are the things that you love to do, what are things that you would do for free, what are the activities that make you come alive, what things that once you start you have to pull yourself away (losing track of time)? When finished with that move on to your talents: what are you a natural at, what is have you practiced or studied, when people ask you for help or advice do you notice a pattern, what do people say that you are good at? Next what do you value: who are the most important people in the world to you, what would you die to protect, when you go against the popular majority what convictions are you upholding, where do you get your sense of morals, if you were going to die soon what would you need to accomplish? And finally let’s move on to your problems: what are the major stumbling blocks to attaining your dreams, what are the mistakes you keep repeating, what are you keeps you afraid, anxious, idle, depressed or angry?the_anxious_clown_by_fb101
This fun right?!? Next I want you to look at each section, and rank each item’s important by number, one being the most important. When you’re finished with one section, move on to the next until you complete all of them. Next, draw the table, four sections with the titles, on a new sheet of paper. Take the items ranked one through seven and rewrite them on your new table. You have just completed step one. It should look something like this.

Passions

1. Blogging- about my life and sharing things I’ve learned
2. Laughing- with my husband, family and friends
3. Making New Friends- gives me an opportunity to be myself
4. Talking to Kids- it would be number one on the list if I did not get sad afterwards
5. Psychology- reading, learning or talking about psychology
6. Learning New Things – and figuring a practical application of it my life
7. Giving Advice- makes me feel useful

Talents
1. Encouragement- I’m good at seeing people’s true essence, its good
2. Talking to God- I usually have an easy time talking, hard for me listen
3. Customer Service-I’m great at calming down irate people
4. Writing- I’m a little rusty, but I am ready and equipped
5. Document Creation- A newly discovered one (I avoided office work)
6. Music Knowledge- I love music and know a lot of songs
7. Finance- I like crreating spending plans

Values

1.Freedom- to be your true self and gain acceptance and respect
2. Emotional Intelligence- principals or morals that enable harmony among people
3. Becoming a Parent- I want a successful pregnancy and to learn quality parenting
4. Family Pride- I desperately want my loved ones to be proud of me
5. Leaving a Loving Legacy- I want to help create a social service before I die
6. Simple Living- Want everyone to live within their means, to enjoy life not things
7. Education- Let this debt not be in vain, but let me earn a lambskin, AMEN

Problems

1. I lack confidence and tend to assume people think the worst of me.
2. I have no income.
3. I’m in debt.
4. My family is hurt by my absence.
5. I’m overweight.
6. I think I will have a lot of difficulty getting pregnant.
7. My house is a mess.

Please share some of your resolutions.

New Year, New You: Step 1

September 17, 2008

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March is fast approaching.  Do you know where your New Year resolutions are? Have you achieved any of them yet? If the answers are “yes”, congrats, you got my respect. Maybe you are only focusing on two out of 12 goals. No worries; that is still impressive. Now, if you’re anything like me, you don’t even know where that piece of paper is anymore.  That’s okay, too; who said you had to start self improvement on New Year’s Day?

Now is always the right time to focus on becoming the best you possible.  One of my first goals is to stop procrastinating.  If there are things that you want to change, dreams that you want to obtain, don’t wait till the end of the year to come up with a plan – let’s work on it together.  I believe that I can learn from those goal-achievement gurus and come up with a well-balanced plan. The plan is not yet made; I will wing it as I go along.  And, since we are all friends here, I would love to share my goals, my beginnings, my plans, and my journey.

The first step is a little soul-searching exercise. Get out a piece of paper, (better yet a new journal or a notebook) to keep track, and divide it in four sections by drawing one line down the middle lengthwise from top to bottom and another across the middle horizontally from one side to the other. The first section (top left quadrant) I want you to label Passions, the second your (top right) Talents, the third (bottom left) Values and the fourth (bottom right) Problems.

Now, when you have a minute, I want you to sit and fill out each section. Your goal is to write at least ten different items for each section, but write as many as you can think of or as many as will fit in the space allotted. Start with your passions: What are the things that you love to do? What are things that you would do for others for free? What are the hobbies that make you come alive? what activities make you lose track of time?

When you’re finished, move on to your talents: What are you a natural at? What have you practiced or studied? What do people ask you for help or advice on? What do others say that you are good at?

Next: What do you value? Who are the most important people in the world to you? What would you die to protect? When do you go against the popular majority? What convictions do you uphold? Where do you get your sense of morals? If you were going to die soon, what would you need to accomplish?

And, finally, let’s move on to your problems: What are the major stumbling blocks to attaining your dreams? What are the mistakes you keep repeating? What keeps you afraid, anxious, idle, depressed or angry?

This is fun right?!? Next, I want you to look at each section, and rank each item’s importance by number, “1” being the most important. When you’re finished with one section, move on to the next until you number all of them. Next, draw the table, four sections with the titles, on a new sheet of paper. Take the items ranked one through six, and rewrite them in order on your new table. When you are finished, pat yourself on the back; you have just completed step one. It should look something like this:

Passions

1. Blogging – about my life and sharing things I’ve learned
2. Making New Friends – gives me an opportunity to be myself
3. Talking to Kids – it would be number one on the list if I did not get sad afterward
4. Psychology – reading, learning or talking about psychology
5. Learning New Things – and figuring out a practical application of it in my life
6. Giving Advice – makes me feel useful

Talents
1. Encouragement – I’m good at seeing people’s true essences; it’s good
2. Customer Service -I’m great at calming down irate people
3. Writing – I’m a little rusty, but I am ready and equipped
4. Document Creation – a newly discovered one (I avoided office work)
5. Music Knowledge – tried to make it sound fancy; I just know a lot of songs
6. Finance – Money missing? I’m your man. I can write up a spending plan

Values

1.Freedom – to be my true self and gain acceptance and respect
2. Emotional Intelligence – principles or morals that enable harmony among people
3. Becoming a Parent – I want a successful pregnancy and to learn quality parenting
4. Family Pride – I desperately want my loved ones to be proud of me
5. Simple Living – I want everyone to live within their means, to enjoy life, not to be burdened by things
6. Education – Let this debt not be in vain, please let me earn a lambskin, AMEN

Problems

1. I lack confidence and tend to assume people think the worst of me.
2. I have no income.
3. I’m in debt.
4. My family is hurt by my absence.
5. I’m overweight.
6. My house is a mess.